Over-Apologizing: The Problem AND The Solution!

Hello! Do you apologize too much? This is a habit a lot of peope have, and that I used to suffer from. In this video, I get to the root of the problem, and why it’s so harmful to your relationships.  I also teach you the (ingenious!) solution — and thereby how to improve your relationship to yourself and others! Plus, I’ll make you laugh out loud from the silliness WEEKLY ASSIGNMENT: Comment below and let me know when & to whom you apologize unnecessarily and how you are going to implement this practice. And share this with any friends who suffer from this problem!  I’m so looking forward to hear how you implement this! Zoë PS. I AM SO… Continue reading »

Deciding Vs. Committing : How to achieve that Goal you’ve been putting off!

Hey Amazing Ambassador!! What’s some GOAL that you’ve been wanting to achieve but keep putting off? In this video I explain the difference between “deciding” and “committing” – some of the biggest obstacles to to fulfilling our resolutions – and give you the steps to ACHIEVE WHAT YOU DREAM, fast! I also do something super scary for me, and get really vulnerable about one of my own goals…  WEEKLY ASSIGNMENT: Comment below and tell us your scary & exciting goal – and what your RIVER is!  Check out my AMAZING INSPIRING friend Ellen by clicking here! Ellen is a superstar coach and maven of inspiration for creative visionaries.  And she’s super fun, loving and fierce too! and don’t forget to check out the fabulous… Continue reading »

Spring Cleaning: 4 Simple Questions to Simplify Your Inner & Outer Life!

Hello! This week something broke in our home and it got me thinking about letting go…and how hard it can be! In this video, I share 4 simple questions that will end your overwhelm and simplify decision making so you can feel light and easy this Spring:  Let me know what you discover and decide to get rid of! Also, THANKS! to those of you sending in juicy questions for the vlog! It’s so much more fun for me when I get a direct question to answer!  It makes me feel even more connected to you. Awww. Homework: Write down these questions and choose a room, closet or your whole house to go over with them! Bonus: Choose 5-10 habits & beliefs to apply… Continue reading »

The F Word: Part 2

Hey there!! So, what’s your faith story? Find out what type/stage of faith you have in this video — where we’ll go into the 2nd and 3rd types of Faith (the 3rd is pretty radically different from the first two).  Do you have faith? in what? Did you always? Did it grow over time? Was it ever challenged? Do you have other questions about it??? Let me know below or on facebook  and I will write you back–hit me up!  Oh, and enjoy this: OK, now have a great week!! Love, Zoë

The F Word (Part 1)

Hello!  Today I want to talk to you about The F Word. I got a little carried away…so this is Part 1 – and I’ll post Part 2 in a few days…I’m really excited to hear what your take is and your personal story with the F word. HOMEWORK: COMMENT BELOW and tell us a personal F Word Story on facebook. What are your biggest questions about F___? Have a great week! Zoë

Layers of Self: How to Re-connect to Authenticity & Intimacy (Part 2)

In the last video, I showed you the layers of self and why people lose touch with their authentic self and the possibility for true intimate connection. In Part 2, I’ll show you how to descend back through the layers of self to reconnect to your authenticity, allowing for true intimacy. Don’t forget to leave comments here or on facebook. Your feedback really helps me! What else do you want to hear about? Send me your Q’s and I will do my best to A them! This week’s assignment: Do this!! At least once, let go of your usual pattern to avoid or numb or defend and go back through the layers of self to re-connect with your authentic self! Have… Continue reading »

Layers of Self: How to re-connect to Authenticity & Connection (Part 1)

Authenticity & Connection are two things almost everyone wants, and yet they can be so hard to attain or maintain 100% — especially when you’re having trouble even knowing WHO YOU ARE, let alone navigating the mixed messages from others about who they are. So what happened? Why are we disconnected from our authentic self and others’, and what can we do to get back in touch with ourselves and express that consistently in the world? In today’s video I show you the layers of yourself, your authentic self, what happened to disconnect you from that, and what you can do to reconnect to it. If you’ve ever wondered who you are, and why you feel out of touch with… Continue reading »

Q&A How to give back without giving up your job, vacation time, or savings!

Hi Sweets! So many of us want to give back — but it can be hard when we feel like we have so little extra time and money. In this week’s article I share several creative and effective ways to give back (and feel more joy, connection, love and purpose) without giving up your job, vacation time or your life savings! Q: Hi Zoe, I have only one vacation this year. The truth is, I have been working so hard at my new job that I could use that vacation. But then that seems selfish! So, I want to volunteer abroad. I wish I could take time off forever and help people, but at least for now I can’t.  Do you know… Continue reading »

What to do when you are in a BAD MOOD

Most of the time these days, I am a joyful loving being skipping through the lilies.  But every now and then, I wake up like a little black hole of negativity. Does that ever happen to you? I had one of those days this week, and it inspired me to make this video about what to do when you just want to go back under the covers and skip today: Leave a comment below &/or on facebook to let me know what your “story” is on bad days–I wonder how many of us have the same ones?   Isn’t being human a trip?? Love, Zoë The Guest House This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy,… Continue reading »

Does Monogamy = Monotony?

Last week my fiancé, Eka Joti, and I were interviewed by Mai Vu on the show Sex, Lies and Consciousness on the topic of Sacred Relationship.  It was a super juicy call, and we talk about common misconceptions about relationship, the disservice society has done to so many of us with conditioning around this topic, and the core questions everyone needs to ask for healthy commitment. We also begin to touch on techniques to develop and sustain passion, intimacy, variety and longevity in monogamous relationships, which I will be going into in further detail in upcoming articles and offerings. Instead of a video this week, I thought you might enjoy this powerful call–especially with Valentine’s Day right around the corner–and I’d love to… Continue reading »

Improve Communication: 4 Questions to Ask Before You Open Your Mouth!

Hey there! Ever been frustrated by lack of communication–your own or someone else’s?  For this week’s practice I’m going to teach you four simple questions that I wish EVERYONE would ask before speaking.  Try this out and you will find you have greater connection, authenticity, respect, energy and not to mention TWICE the IMPACT with half the words! This is also a simple form of speaking meditation. Don’t forget to comment below and let me know some funny story where these questions would really have been helpful! If you agree that you wish everyone would ask themselves these questions before speaking to you, share this video on facebook, twitter, email…in whatever way you love to connect!  THANKS! Have a wonderful… Continue reading »

Q&A: Should I break up? Letting go of a long term relationship.

Hi Zoe, I have been seeing this guy for the last 10 years, about 5 years ago I started pulling away. Recently, I decided he was not the one for me, and told him that I did not want to date him any longer, but we continued seeing each other on and off (mostly friends having sex, usually his idea). He has a good heart but his brain gets in the was an he regularly will do something to me or say something to someone else that makes me very angry and I would call him out on it usually he would apologize but it would still happen again another time. He has a temper, and is incredibly impatient. So… Continue reading »

End Anger in 60 Seconds! Anger Management

Being angry is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die…UGH! Want to end your anger? This week we’re taking this “consciousness” stuff & getting real practical, applying it to anger management: HOW TO DISSOLVE YOUR ANGER IN 60 SECONDS using my 3 part technique: WEEKLY PRACTICE: 1) What is something you’ve been angry about? Apply this technique and post your results below! 2) Use this technique whenever you get angry this week. Post your results on the facebook page! If you like this video–tweet & fb it, yo!–Don’t forget to leave comments under the videos to let us know your best techniques for dissolving anger! Enjoy your life! Zoë “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel… Continue reading »

What is Spirituality? Why Should YOU Care?

Spirituality is a word thrown around a lot…it can be really confusing and seem so woo-woo. This confusion stops a lot of people from investigating it, and therefore from finding some of the most effective ways to have a more joyful, love-filled, fulfilling life.  This ticks me off! So this week’s video is: What is Spirituality? I hope this clarifies it for you, and excites you into exploring deeper.  As always, comment & share the video if you like it! Thanks! This week’s practice: 1. For this week try treating everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING (and EVERYONE) as if it is totally sacred to you. From the way you hold a cup or cross the street to the way you… Continue reading »

What is Meditation, REALLY? Why Should You Care?

Ready to WAKE UP in 2012?! Here’s the first video!! Don’t forget to leave comments below or on facebook to let me know what you think. I love to hear from you! Be Bold! Ask Questions you have so that we can explore them together. I believe Spirituality is a key factor in the transformation of consciousness that humanity needs to heal our lives, planet and human community. May 2012 bring you insight, peace, power and joy! Zoë In many shamanic societies, if you came to a medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited or depressed, they would ask one of 4 questions: When did you stop Dancing? When did you stop Singing? When did You stop Being Enchanted by… Continue reading »

FCC SF Radio Interview!

Interview with WholeBodySF on FCC Radio Hey everyone! Last week I was interviewed by the lovely Polina Smith of WholeBodySF on her radio show “Whole Body Talk”.   Polina is an athlete and an artist who draws on her background in circus arts, dance, competitive swimming, yoga, strength training and massage therapy to create fun and effective sessions for people looking to bring health and well-being into their lives. Awesome, right?  Check out the free exercise videos on her website! We talk about coaching, my personal journey, and whole bunch of other fun stuff in the interview. Enjoy it! PS–Not sure what you’re doing for New Years?  Join us for our FREE Annual Manifest Your Best event in Berkeley!! Make 2012 your best… Continue reading »

9/11 – My Reason WHY.

Ten years ago, on another regular morning, I struggled to force myself to get up and get ready for the day when loud sounds occurred outside my window.  My roommates and I in our small downtown dance loft rushed to the ceiling to floor windows and looked out.  We craned our necks to look down to the end of Duane street, where it met West Broadway.  A huge crowd of people was screaming, crying – staring and pointing up at the sky.  What could it be? Godzilla? We rushed outside and down the street in cargo pants and high heels and then… There were two gaping holes in the giant silver towers, they were bleeding smoke and fire.  “Bombs!” people… Continue reading »

Ordination Sermon OR “Just call me Reverend!”

Hello dear friends, As many of you know, I became ordained as an interfaith minister in the Universal Sufi tradition on May 7th, 2011.  This is one of the greatest honors and privileges of my life, and I am humbled by the grace and responsibility of taking these robes and vows. Some of you have requested copies of the sermon I wrote and read at the ceremony, so I have decided to post it here as a way of expressing my commitments to the world.  Thank you for your companionship and support. I could not lead this life and offer service without each and every one of you.  Much Love! Almost two years ago, I came to a talk in… Continue reading »

How to Support a Grieving Friend or Relative

“Dear Zoë, My best friend’s mother just died from lung cancer and they only found out 1 month ago…when we talk on the phone, I listen to them crying and I don’t know what to say, how to help. What is there to say…I feel so stupid and helpless…is there anything to tell her, to make her feel just one tiny itsy bit better????? I’m feeling so sad and this is a message out of desperate need for help…. ~G.” Shortly after I sent out the last newsletter, my stepmother Faye died suddenly. So when I received this question, so similar to my own situation, I knew I had to write about it. Death is a daunting subject to broach… Continue reading »

I hope your new year is off to an amazing start, and that you are ready to meet 2011 wholeheartedly! Why should you read this? In a sentence: Life is too short for meaningless conversations, and we’re about to get real here. Over the past few months I have been receiving numerous emails from friends asking really honest, vulnerable, and hard to answer questions about life, death, spirituality, relationships, etc.  I am so touched and impressed by these questions, and felt that many other people would be interested both in the answers and sharing their experiences too. Add to this the fact that anyone who knows me knows that the big, tough questions of life have been my passion since… Continue reading »