I had one of those days this week, and it inspired me to make this video about what to do when you just want to go back under the covers and skip today:

Leave a comment below &/or on facebook to let me know what your “story” is on bad days–I wonder how many of us have the same ones?

Isn’t being human a trip??

Love,
Zoë

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

~Rumi~

We also begin to touch on techniques to develop and sustain passion, intimacy, variety and longevity in monogamous relationships, which I will be going into in further detail in upcoming articles and offerings.

Instead of a video this week, I thought you might enjoy this powerful call–especially with Valentine’s Day right around the corner–and I’d love to hear what you learn from it, and your favorite relationship tips!

LISTEN TO THE INTERVIEW NOW: 

BAY AREA FOLKS: We are also offering a couple’s workshop on some of these principles on Sunday, Feb 12th CHECK OUT THE DETAILS HERE. So much better than the usual fancy dinner!  Read glowing reviews from previous workshops here.

What do you think? Does monogamy have to be monotonous? Post on the facebook page or comment below and let me know!

Ever been frustrated by lack of communication–your own or someone else’s?  For this week’s practice I’m going to teach you four simple questions that I wish EVERYONE would ask before speaking.  Try this out and you will find you have greater connection, authenticity, respect, energy and not to mention TWICE the IMPACT with half the words! This is also a simple form of speaking meditation.

Don’t forget to comment below and let me know some funny story where these questions would really have been helpful!

If you agree that you wish everyone would ask themselves these questions before speaking to you, share this video on facebook, twitter, email…in whatever way you love to connect!  THANKS!

Have a wonderful week! Practice!!
Zoë

PS. Join us on the fb page –introduce yourself & let us know how it goes!

“Eka and Zoe, thank you for a wonderful introduction to tantra. Through your introduction, I now have a channel to address the ‘void’ in our relationships and sex in general. I am certain that this will help many of us understand ourselves at a deeper level and learn to appreciate each other’s uniqueness. Thank you and I certainly look forward to next sessions.”

“It was great introduction to Tantra Yoga and look forward to upcoming workshops! What impressed me the most was Eka’s and Zoe’s patience and willingness to answer questions as well as creating a safe place. Thanks Again!”

“Eka and Zoe are such a lovely couple and definitely know what they are talking about. The two hours just flew away in no time and I was left wanting more. The breathing techniques and other exercises were simply awesome. Keep up the good work guys!! This group is here to stay for sure ”

“Talk about Movement Magic! What a great way to usher in 2011 with an intentional community of strangers that I met as friends. The venue is a sacred space imbued with joy by the owners. From a community altar to set our intentions. And intentional movement of the 7 centers of intelligence to hunker in my declaration. Followed by creating a vision board to represent the seeds I have sown. And closing with retrieving the item I put on they altar to bring it home, imbued with energy. Thanks!”

“This was FUN! A great atmosphere and a great organizer. I had a great time attending and highly recommend to ALL!”

“Eka and Zoë are two beautiful complementary beings who genuinely desire for you to step into your joy and your power. ”

“I had such a great time at this event! Eka and Zoe led it so beautifully, with inspiration and knowledge! The way they presented this information was very fresh and inspiring — it didn’t feel like a regurgitation of the same spiritual stuff.”

“Good energy, and fun atmosphere. Eka and Zoe’s partnership embodies the essence of the empowered journey.”

“I wish I could rate this 10 stars, but Meetup.com isn’t equipped for this level of awesomeness.  As someone who is constantly searching out and putting to use programs to better my life in every way, I can honestly say that last night was a completely unique experience that will forever stand out as the single most life changing workshop I have ever attended. Eka and Zoë are changing lives one room full of people at a time. I really feel like we should do a case study where we track the success of everyone who attended, and see where they are by 2012. I can damn near guarantee that everyone who took it seriously will have grown far closer to their ideal life than in every year prior. I know for a fact that 2011 is going to be the year my life goes from amazing to truly phenomenal. I can feel this with 1000% congruence in everything I am.”

“Eka and Zoe, as always, did a beautiful job of creating a warm, safe, and nurturing space. I especially appreciated the range and balance of activities such as the spiritual aspect of the altar, the creative/emotional aspect of the artwork, the intellectual component of writing/planning, and the physical element of dance. All of these carefully and lovingly planned events coalesced into a holistically empowering night. What a wonderful way to cross the threshold to a new year. Thank you Eka and Zoe!”

“More like this please! I love how you combine dancing, writing, art, and soul searching!”

“Beautiful people and extremely well orchestrated!”

“Perfect in every way.”

Imagine being able to bring all of these qualities into your intimate relationship, in a fun, creative, systematized and effective way…

Join Eka Joti and Zoë Wild on Valentine’s Day for a very special partner event:

The Art of Yogic Relationship

Sunday, February 12th 2-5pm

7th Heaven Yoga, Berkeley

$80 per couple

Event is geared to all levels

• Instead of the usual ‘fancy dinner out’, do something special with lasting benefit
• Down to earth teachers and practices that you can easily reproduce at home
• Learn 3 different forms of embodied practice to develop personal and shared yoga
• Increase natural communication and understanding through a body-based process of ‘tuning in’
• Feel more empowered and balanced in your partner roles and expressions
• Experience all the benefits of good yoga, in the context of loving and conscious partnership!

About  Zoë and Eka

Having met on a 3-month silent meditation retreat, Eka and Zoe eventually decided to jump in with both feet, settling for nothing less than the complete experience of a loving and adventurous partnership while continuing to honor their individual lives and desires for success, fulfillment and awakening.

This intention led them to practice and train in various modalities of conscious partnership under the guidance of three master teachers.

Zoë is a spiritual life & business coach, minister and joy expert. Eka is an empowerment trainer and stress and energy specialist.

Click here to read GLOWING REVIEWS from past events!

Hi Zoe,

I have been seeing this guy for the last 10 years, about 5 years ago I started pulling away. Recently, I decided he was not the one for me, and told him that I did not want to date him any longer, but we continued seeing each other on and off (mostly friends having sex, usually his idea). He has a good heart but his brain gets in the was an he regularly will do something to me or say something to someone else that makes me very angry and I would call him out on it usually he would apologize but it would still happen again another time. He has a temper, and is incredibly impatient. So recently I told him that I couldn’t do this anymore that, we are not compatible (polar opposites) and I just have to break away from him.We both love each other very much but there are many things that I would like him to want to change about himself. He said that he was willing to make these changes to keep me in his life. Another HUGE issue is that my family is not crazy about him. I don’t think he has ever met my closest friends, because I am embarrassed by what he says a lot of the time.So pretty much I am completely confused, and I don’t know if I am just in Love or if I am very comfortable with him, and don’t want to break his heart. He is so attached and I am happy to be with him, but I want my own life as well, and I want HIM to have His own life..apart from ours.

So my question is: Do I talk to my family? Do I just jump in and say OK to him? Or should I be telling him that I can’t/won’t do it any longer?

Thanks, S.

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Hi S!

I’m honored you would reach out to me with this very personal and such an important situation in your life & heart.

My very first question is: What do you WISH I would say right now?  Answer that before you read on!  Really! That answer is usually the most telling. Of course you know that only YOU know the answer of whether he is the one for you or not. No one else can tell you that, including him. So, I encourage you to really ask yourself and use the exercise in my 4th Joy Secret Video about making decisions.

Here are a few key lessons I’ve learned: 

1. Don’t fall in love with the person you hope he will become.

This is what most people do in relationship, and it’s why most people are unhappy in relationship. They are not in love with each other, but with the person they hope their partner will become.  For it to be successful, you have to love your partner as is.

2. You can’t change him, or anyone else.  

People have to change themselves, and he can only do that if he really, really wants to! It’s simply not your place.  Get out of his business and into your own (are these things you want to change because you are limited or because they are really out of line with your values in a partner?)

3. Reflect on who YOU are when you are with him.  

Does he bring out the best in you? The true purpose of relationship (at least sacred relationship) is to be together to help each other evolve into human beings and to enjoy the journey of life and together make the world a brighter place.

4. Stop worrying about your family & friends

That is probably an excuse to not get in touch with YOU and YOUR true feelings, which are the only ones that really matter here.  Once you figure those out, the rest will be easy/clear.

5. Discover if your motivations come from love or fear.

Try the following exercise to see if your motivations to stay with him are from fear or love.  Complete the following sentence. You can list as many as you think of:

If I leave him, I’m afraid that….

If I stay with him, I’m afraid that…

6. Get Curious! Don’t presume you know what LOVE is. 

Most people have a very limited concept of what “love” really is and how relationships should look, that is the result of hollywood movies and cultural programming.  Before you really get stuck on “do I love him?” do an inquiry on “What is love really, to ME?” freewrite without stopping for 20min.  Take the question on walks.  This is a question to be lived. It doesn’t have one answer; it keeps opening and deepening over a lifetime.

HOW TO DISSOLVE YOUR ANGER IN 60 SECONDS using my 3 part technique:

WEEKLY PRACTICE: 1) What is something you’ve been angry about? Apply this technique and post your results below! 2) Use this technique whenever you get angry this week. Post your results on the facebook page!

If you like this video–tweet & fb it, yo!–Don’t forget to leave comments under the videos to let us know your best techniques for dissolving anger!

Enjoy your life!
Zoë

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” ~Mark Twain

This week’s practice: 1. For this week try treating everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING (and EVERYONE) as if it is totally sacred to you. From the way you hold a cup or cross the street to the way you listen to your lover. Notice how this perspective affects the way you move through the world. Have a great week and let me know how it goes!

Here’s the first video!!

Don’t forget to leave comments below or on facebook to let me know what you think. I love to hear from you!

Be Bold! Ask Questions you have so that we can explore them together. I believe Spirituality is a key factor in the transformation of consciousness that humanity needs to heal our lives, planet and human community.

May 2012 bring you insight, peace, power and joy!
Zoë

In many shamanic societies, if you came to a medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited or depressed, they would ask one of 4 questions: When did you stop Dancing? When did you stop Singing? When did You stop Being Enchanted by Stories? When did You Stop Finding Comfort in the Sweet Territory of Silence? ~ Gabrielle Roth

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Interview with WholeBodySF on FCC Radio

Hey everyone! Last week I was interviewed by the lovely Polina Smith of WholeBodySF on her radio show “Whole Body Talk”.   Polina is an athlete and an artist who draws on her background in circus arts, dance, competitive swimming, yoga, strength training and massage therapy to create fun and effective sessions for people looking to bring health and well-being into their lives. Awesome, right?  Check out the free exercise videos on her website!

We talk about coaching, my personal journey, and whole bunch of other fun stuff in the interview. Enjoy it!

PS–Not sure what you’re doing for New Years?  Join us for our FREE Annual Manifest Your Best event in Berkeley!! Make 2012 your best year yet!